The recipe for long term happiness

Who better to ask than a couple who have been married for 71 years?

It seems the secret is to have fun when you are together, not necessarily to be together every second or to do everything together. Having your own interests is healthy! You won’t agree on everything so it is important to respect your partners beliefs even if you don’t agree with them – if your differences are so fundamental that you are unable to respect their beliefs you most likely shouldn’t be together – and to find that happy medium where you can both be feel valued.

sun article 120215

 

Forget the fantasy and you’ll find real-life love

I love this article, it says brilliantly something I’ve been telling people for years. There is no such thing as one perfect soul-mate. There are potentially thousands of wonderful soul-mates out there. The key is to stop waiting around for this fantasy perfect person who is going to miraculously come along and do and be everything you want. Open your mind and your heart and give yourself the opportunity to meet someone with whom you can build a joyous and satisfying life.

Chances are they won’t be perfect. They may be a bit shorter or a bit older than you dream of. They might leave the lid off the toothpaste or the seat up on the loo. But they might also cook you fantastic meals or write you inspired love notes or love your kids or grandkids as their own.  Love doesn’t come down from the heavens like a lightening bolt. It starts with 2 people with mutual attraction and an enjoyment of each others company. The rest is up to you to build.

http://www.theblaze.com/contributions/i-didnt-marry-the-one-she-become-the-one-after-i-married-her/

 

More Happy Couples

We love receiving your letters and emails and photos too. Keep them coming!

From Mr R (member 193117)

The best things about my new partner are: “The natural/enjoyable feeling when in each others company. Her spirit, graciousness, pride of appearance and openness. Plus she is very active.

The best things about being in a relationship are: “Sharing your ideas and feelings, expecting honest feedback and getting it. Giving time to a partner returns joy to yourself (you give to receive!)

Further comments: “I guess I was lucky, Louise was my only meeting, so thank you Rita, your company has helped me immensely”

From Ms C (member 292083)

The best things about my new partner are: “His sense of humour and humility. He is also honest and open, easy to talk to, good company”.

The best things about being in a relationship are: “That you have someone who cares for you… and to share your life with”.

Further comments: “Just to say, Many Thanks for introducing me to Rick”

Thank you everyone,

We are so pleased to hear all about the relationships that sparked from our matchmaking services.

Loneliness is a health hazard

A new study shows loneliness can as much as double your risk of dying.

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/why-loneliness-is-more-dangerous-than-obesity/story-fniym874-1226829507830

A timely reminder to look after your love life, none of us were meant to be alone. Also to think about our relatives and neighbours, especially older people are very vulnerable to loneliness, many are not as mobile as they used to be.

Is there someone you know who might benefit from your cheery face? Share the love and it will come back to you!!

Be nice and don’t miss out by being too picky

Interesting article originally sourced from the New York Post. I don’t think there is anything in it I don’t agree with. Some good advice indeed!

 

Russian Connection

We recently welcomed back Victoria, our Russian Consultant.  Victoria worked with us in 2009 and was instrumental in the establishment of our data base of beautiful Russian & Ukrainian ladies both in Australia and New Zealand as well as abroad  and assisted in the successful matches of many of our members.  Since then Victoria has been back to Russia and also spent 2 years in New Zealand. Now back in Australia permanently, Victoria has been working diligently to expand the existing database and now has 100’s of fantastic women of Russian, Ukrainian, Moldavian and Uzbek background who she is working with to find their perfect match. Check back soon, we are in the process of setting up Victorias page where she will be posting the photos of some of her listed ladies as well as giving tips about Russian culture to help men who are seeking to find love and happiness with a Russian lady.

A lesson in what NOT to do!

Wow. No wonder this guy is advertising on Craiglist. No self respecting matchmaker would take on this case!!

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/gentleman8217-seeks-8216worthy8217-woman-in-craigslist-ad/story-fnet0gly-1226707211560

Whilst this gentleman is an extreme case, it is a good lesson to all of us about whether we have expectations that may be a little unrealistic.  It’s important not to have a huge list of musts and must nots, and to not lay out a list of rules or expectations of a future partner. Otherwise you’ll never find one 😉

Cheers

Joanne

 

Thought for the day

From Dr John F Demartini,

The purpose of marriage is not for you or your partner to be happy as most unwisely imagine. The purpose of marriage is for two partners to equally support and challenge each other in order to own each others disowned parts and to make each other true and authentic as they grow in the awareness of true love”

If you are looking for some inspiring reading I recommend Dr Demartini.

Good Vibrations to you

Joanne

 

 

Special Guest Matchmaker

Miss Tawny is joining us this week to make sure all our matches are up to standard.  (Also because of an unfortunate altercation with a window. When you pick a fight with a window, the window always wins!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Miss Tawny keeping a firm eye on Debra to make sure her matches don’t go to the dogs!

Happy Hold Letter of the Week

From Shane in Melbourne (member 130353) “I am happy and have not been this happy for a long time. I am in love with Heather.  She is kind, beautiful and very special”.  Congratulations Shane, all our best wishes for continued happiness 🙂