When the initial coffee meeting goes well enough that you feel it is worthwhile seeing the lady again, it is best to arrange a second meeting (the first ‘date’) before you leave the initial meetup.
You could say something along the lines of “I’ve really enjoyed our coffee today, would you like to go for lunch on the weekend?”
It is preferable to arrange the second meeting there and then rather than say you will call. This also gives the person the opportunity to say if they are not keen to meet up again rather than dodging calls later.
A man should never say to a woman anything along the lines of “If you are interested call me”.
The only woman who will possibly call in response to this is one who is either completely desperate or has ulterior motives.
When a man says that to a woman what he is saying to himself is “I don’t want to be pushy”
When a man says that to a woman what he is really saying to her is:
“I don’t like you enough to put any effort into pursuing you”
“I am unwilling to put any effort into any woman”
“I am putting the responsibility of anything coming from this meeting onto you and am not willing to accept any responsibility for the courtship process myself”
Under no circumstances should a man attempt or ask to kiss, cuddle, hold hands with or otherwise touch a woman on the first meeting. Additionally discussing sex, either what you’ve had in the past or what you hope to have in the future is a no go. The way to tell a woman you are attracted to her is to ask her on a date, not to tell her you find her sexy etc. This will only be appealing to possibility 5% of women, so it is 95% likely that this will be a big turn off for the lady. If a man is sufficiently motivated by a woman to want to pursue some kind of intimacy with her, he should also be sufficiently motivated to show her the respect of a proper courtship process.
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